My Top 10 Quick Happiness Fixes

Seemingly, I have developed a peculiar way to deal with the feelings of anger, panic, anxiety, frustration, unfairness, blame or just pity for myself. First, I feed myself with highly charged negative thoughts to heighten my emotions until I tear up and eventually start  bawling. Then I eat. And then I cry some more, passionately continuing an angry inner-dialogue. Ultimately I get tired of that and let it go.

Today I fell to the same pattern again, except this time,  after stuffing myself with cookies, I had … a clarifying moment. An understanding, that it is me who is creating this drama and that no one else is suffering from it but myself, washed through me and I decided to cut it off. Yet the tricky part is that the anger I generated, just like a snowball, was already rolling downhill and continued to acquire more and more momentum. To allow momentum to pass, I simply breathed-in and out several times and for a moment attempted to focus on the present moment.

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Then I started to think about the Quick Happiness Fixes that usually cheer me up. These are the ones that work for me:

  1. Treating myself with a dessert or a sweet latte drink from a coffee shop.
  2. Watching bloopers of my favorite TV comedy shows (“Friends” especially).
  3. Listening to a stand-up special.
  4. Putting THAT song on.
  5. Taking a long hot shower.
  6. Talking myself down by reminding myself of how fantastic my life is, how much I’m taking it for granted, how grateful I should be instead and how minuscule my first world problems are.
  7. Taking time off from everything and everyone, and just running off to some place where no one knows me.
  8. Checking some things off my to-do list.
  9. Creating something.
  10. Taking attention from myself by being kind to someone else.

According to others, wandering in nature, exercising or meeting up with friends come a long way in cooling a boiling mind down. It would be super interesting and useful to hear what works for you… ?

With much relief,

Pupa

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Envision Your Vision

No wonder creative visualization technique is being prescribed by many personal development coaches: the benefits of clarifying and emotionally experiencing your dreams by virtually reliving them in your mind has been proven to lead to the greater success in the “execution phase”.

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I remember how thrilled I was to discover visualization, since daydreaming naturally was (and remains) one of my favorite pastime activities. While lounging by a pool, jogging on a treadmill, or sipping the second Margarita in the local pub, I would ask myself “Where could I be now?”, “What could I be doing?” or “Wouldn’t it be nice , if…?” and drift off envisioning various delicious scenarios. That field of potentiality, mixed with improvised creativity, emotionally charged with excitement, joy and freedom, and sprinkled with goosebumps is oh-so-delicious treat with which I pamper myself daily.

I do believe in the power of visualization, but even if I didn’t, creating the alternative life in my mind (just like playing Sims, if you will), genuinely is a fun activity  Plus it really magnifies  and clarifies, what is it that presently matters to me. I also find it extremely satisfying to listen to people, when they’re tapped into this field of potentiality and possibility, talk about their dreams and goals and ambitions… Trough those sparkling eyes and trembling voice I feel the closest connection and purest affection to others.

Dreamily,

Pupa

Feelin’ Yourself.

When do you feel most confident, most beautiful, most glowing? Is there a perfectly-fitting piece of clothing that you are saving for the special occasion? Fine lace lingerie? The way you style your hair? The colorful cocktail you hold in your hand or the song that gets you high?

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One of those “feelin’ myself” moments for me is when I am all dolled up, wearing long floating dress and, with the wind in my hair, biking around the city at night.

I hope you too, more often than not, gonna throw on your invisible crown and remind humanity who they are dealing with.

Gracefully Yours,

Pupa