Cat Cafe: the secluded island of purr

I never took the time to evaluate my relationship with the four-legged creatures. Yet any time I would interact with a pet, I would feel elated and overjoyed to the point where purchasing one seemed like a brilliant idea. Thankfully (I guess), the rational mind kicks in just at the  right time, reminding about the unsuitable logistics and shortcomings for such matter.

block_1Oh but Cat Cafes are such a convenient way to interact with those happy-go-lucky creatures, without any commitment or responsibilities (and they serve coffee!!!). Of course, I can only imagine the potential bond that pets and their owners develop, but for now I am feeling blessed for this option to come, pet, purr and go.

Also, it might be just me, but it seems that the vibs in these places are exceptionally peaceful and soothing, as everyone is relaxed, blissfully wandering around, smiling, giggling, cuddling… What an isolated purring island, remote from all the noise and roar of the outer world. That’s where you’ll find me.





My Top 10 Quick Happiness Fixes

Seemingly, I have developed a peculiar way to deal with the feelings of anger, panic, anxiety, frustration, unfairness, blame or just pity for myself. First, I feed myself with highly charged negative thoughts to heighten my emotions until I tear up and eventually start  bawling. Then I eat. And then I cry some more, passionately continuing an angry inner-dialogue. Ultimately I get tired of that and let it go.

Today I fell to the same pattern again, except this time,  after stuffing myself with cookies, I had … a clarifying moment. An understanding, that it is me who is creating this drama and that no one else is suffering from it but myself, washed through me and I decided to cut it off. Yet the tricky part is that the anger I generated, just like a snowball, was already rolling downhill and continued to acquire more and more momentum. To allow momentum to pass, I simply breathed-in and out several times and for a moment attempted to focus on the present moment.


Then I started to think about the Quick Happiness Fixes that usually cheer me up. These are the ones that work for me:

  1. Treating myself with a dessert or a sweet latte drink from a coffee shop.
  2. Watching bloopers of my favorite TV comedy shows (“Friends” especially).
  3. Listening to a stand-up special.
  4. Putting THAT song on.
  5. Taking a long hot shower.
  6. Talking myself down by reminding myself of how fantastic my life is, how much I’m taking it for granted, how grateful I should be instead and how minuscule my first world problems are.
  7. Taking time off from everything and everyone, and just running off to some place where no one knows me.
  8. Checking some things off my to-do list.
  9. Creating something.
  10. Taking attention from myself by being kind to someone else.

According to others, wandering in nature, exercising or meeting up with friends come a long way in cooling a boiling mind down. It would be super interesting and useful to hear what works for you… ?

With much relief,




Oh there is nothing quite like that rush of endorphins when we get movin’, right?            “Why don’t I do it more often???!!”, squeaks the hyper rejuvenated mind.

But is it just me who is way too quick to forget this blissful #HappyMuscles mode…. and already next day has the same numbing inner debate about the pro’s and con’s of leaving the comfy bed?


Well, hopefully (though definitely not every time) the dispute ends by grabbing the trainers and heading out, because revitalizing the body in a way that is actually fun and engaging (whever is a jog in a neighborhood, a gym session, a refreshing swim, a basketball game in the backyard, or a yoga with YouTube videos) is one of the greatest way to treat yourself.

Let’s just not make it feel like a drag… As Abraham-Hicks suggests, “Think, as long as it’s fun; and try, as long as it’s easy; and speak, as long as it feels good; and otherwise, take a nap.”

Revitalized Pupa



I don’t think there is much need to defend the  value and importance of treating oneself. We get it, right? Pleasure is pleasure.block_2

Yet, how much “selfishness” do we allow ourselves before the Guiltmon shows up? (Oh, I’m sure you’re familiar with Guiltmon – the guilt monster)


The big tipping point for me was discovering the Abraham-Hicks teachings. That’s what they have to say on the subject:

“If we were standing in your physical shoes, that would be our dominant quest: Entertaining Yourself, pleasing Yourself, connecting with Yourself, being Yourself, enjoying Yourself, loving Yourself. Some say, “Well, Abraham you teach selfishness. And we say, yes we do, yes we do, yes we do, because unless you are selfish enough to reach for that connection, you don’t have anything to give anyone, anyway. And when you are selfish enough to make that connection — you have an enormous gift that you give everywhere you are. ” Abraham-Hicks, 4/21/01

Anyway. Debating the reasons to treat yourself is not nearly as delicious as actually sitting down and figuring out what makes you glow or throw your hands in the air screaming ‘Woohoooooo!’. Is it a 10 hour sleep? Brunch on the terrace? Stroll on the beach? Adrenaline rush of skydiving?  Afternoon cuddle? Karaoke session?  Smell of the newly bought book? Sales? Snickers? Sex? Socks?

While you’re making a list, shout out to “Parks and Rec”  for demonstrating how it’s done:

With much glow,


Season 1: Pilot

Hello Beautiful People.

Pupatopia is intended as (but not limited to) a space for celebrating life. Like a beach, if you will.


I was always certain that life is long and there is so much time on our hands. Yet deciding how to use it and where to invest it still keeps me awake at night (not literally. I actually sleep pretty well – thank you for asking ***hair flip***).

“Everything is equally meaningless” is one of the best statements I’ve stumbled upon,  which also sort of explains why I keep jumping from one project/hobby/obsession to another, just to come back to the same conclusion, that, in the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter.

Except for Happiness. That matters. Happiness always mattered to me. In fact, the only thing that I believe without a shadow of doubt, is that the purpose of life is to be happy (#DalaiLamaStyle).

The magic land of Pupatopia is for discovering the algorithm of joy and learning to apply it on the daily basis.  Surely, everyone is welcome to join along the way.

In other words:  kick off your shoes, throw on the crown and treat Yourself.