Seemingly, I have developed a peculiar way to deal with the feelings of anger, panic, anxiety, frustration, unfairness, blame or just pity for myself. First, I feed myself with highly charged negative thoughts to heighten my emotions until I tear up and eventually start bawling. Then I eat. And then I cry some more, passionately continuing an angry inner-dialogue. Ultimately I get tired of that and let it go.
Today I fell to the same pattern again, except this time, after stuffing myself with cookies, I had … a clarifying moment. An understanding, that it is me who is creating this drama and that no one else is suffering from it but myself, washed through me and I decided to cut it off. Yet the tricky part is that the anger I generated, just like a snowball, was already rolling downhill and continued to acquire more and more momentum. To allow momentum to pass, I simply breathed-in and out several times and for a moment attempted to focus on the present moment.
Then I started to think about the Quick Happiness Fixes that usually cheer me up. These are the ones that work for me:
- Treating myself with a dessert or a sweet latte drink from a coffee shop.
- Watching bloopers of my favorite TV comedy shows (“Friends” especially).
- Listening to a stand-up special.
- Putting THAT song on.
- Taking a long hot shower.
- Talking myself down by reminding myself of how fantastic my life is, how much I’m taking it for granted, how grateful I should be instead and how minuscule my first world problems are.
- Taking time off from everything and everyone, and just running off to some place where no one knows me.
- Checking some things off my to-do list.
- Creating something.
- Taking attention from myself by being kind to someone else.
According to others, wandering in nature, exercising or meeting up with friends come a long way in cooling a boiling mind down. It would be super interesting and useful to hear what works for you… ?
With much relief,