While a post about love, coupling, birds,bees, and pandas* might be more appropriate on Valentine’s Day, where is something else I feel like bringing to this iTable. (*and yes, pandas are ALWAYS appropriate)
So just yesterday, after several insistent suggestions to meet up, for once, I actually stopped and affirmed to myself:”Nope, he is someone I really don’t feel like seeing”. And I didn’t. No shame. No complain. No explain.While it might not sound like a big deal for you, for me, who has made a career out of pity-love, guilt-dates and obliged-relationships, it was so liberating.
Allowing ourselves to detach from people that are detrimental, boring, obnoxious or simply downers, can be a better treat than a bubble bath (oh and you know how good those are).
“Don’t go see someone who is irritating, take a day off from work if you feel tired, go to the beach if it calls you, listen to more of the music that pleases you, soothe yourself in ANY way that you can. Let your mantra be,”Today, no matter where I’m going and no matter what I’m doing, it is my dominant intent to PLEASE MYSELF. It is my dominant intent to be good to me, it is my dominant intent to be good to me, it is my DOMINANT intent to be good to me. I’m going to look for ways that I can feel better. I’m going to leave behind things that don’t feel good – thoughts, relationships, STUFF. I’m going to declutter my experience. I’m going to declutter my relationships. I’m going to declutter my mind. I’m going to talk less often to that person who always brings me down. I’m gong to think ledd often of that thought that always puts a know in the pit of my stomach. I’m going to be nicer to me. I’m going to be nicer to me.” (Abraham, West Los Angeles, CA 8/28/10)
So #ByeFelicia to everyone and everything that makes us sobby instead of happy (: