Cat Cafe: the secluded island of purr

I never took the time to evaluate my relationship with the four-legged creatures. Yet any time I would interact with a pet, I would feel elated and overjoyed to the point where purchasing one seemed like a brilliant idea. Thankfully (I guess), the rational mind kicks in just at the  right time, reminding about the unsuitable logistics and shortcomings for such matter.

block_1Oh but Cat Cafes are such a convenient way to interact with those happy-go-lucky creatures, without any commitment or responsibilities (and they serve coffee!!!). Of course, I can only imagine the potential bond that pets and their owners develop, but for now I am feeling blessed for this option to come, pet, purr and go.

Also, it might be just me, but it seems that the vibs in these places are exceptionally peaceful and soothing, as everyone is relaxed, blissfully wandering around, smiling, giggling, cuddling… What an isolated purring island, remote from all the noise and roar of the outer world. That’s where you’ll find me.

Purringly,

Pupa

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My Top 10 Quick Happiness Fixes

Seemingly, I have developed a peculiar way to deal with the feelings of anger, panic, anxiety, frustration, unfairness, blame or just pity for myself. First, I feed myself with highly charged negative thoughts to heighten my emotions until I tear up and eventually start  bawling. Then I eat. And then I cry some more, passionately continuing an angry inner-dialogue. Ultimately I get tired of that and let it go.

Today I fell to the same pattern again, except this time,  after stuffing myself with cookies, I had … a clarifying moment. An understanding, that it is me who is creating this drama and that no one else is suffering from it but myself, washed through me and I decided to cut it off. Yet the tricky part is that the anger I generated, just like a snowball, was already rolling downhill and continued to acquire more and more momentum. To allow momentum to pass, I simply breathed-in and out several times and for a moment attempted to focus on the present moment.

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Then I started to think about the Quick Happiness Fixes that usually cheer me up. These are the ones that work for me:

  1. Treating myself with a dessert or a sweet latte drink from a coffee shop.
  2. Watching bloopers of my favorite TV comedy shows (“Friends” especially).
  3. Listening to a stand-up special.
  4. Putting THAT song on.
  5. Taking a long hot shower.
  6. Talking myself down by reminding myself of how fantastic my life is, how much I’m taking it for granted, how grateful I should be instead and how minuscule my first world problems are.
  7. Taking time off from everything and everyone, and just running off to some place where no one knows me.
  8. Checking some things off my to-do list.
  9. Creating something.
  10. Taking attention from myself by being kind to someone else.

According to others, wandering in nature, exercising or meeting up with friends come a long way in cooling a boiling mind down. It would be super interesting and useful to hear what works for you… ?

With much relief,

Pupa

Morning Routine #BabySteps

So for how long have you been dreaming about having a perfectly tailored morning routine that includes a work out, a meditation session, a gratitude journal entry, a mirror affirmations, a goal-setting, and Instagram-worthy breakfast with a freshly brewed cup of coffee?

It’s been in my head for too long. And while I love the idea of starting my day with such physically-mentally-spiritually rejuvenating practice, the reality is way more hectic. But today, instead of expecting myself to make a quantum leap towards such instant enlightenment, I decided to take #BabySteps.

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This morning I started by remaining disconnected, by witch I mean I didn’t turn on my phone or laptop, which I normally do first thing in the morning (don’t you?). Oh and there is so much noise roaring from these devices, the news portals and social media, right? What a treat it was to be awake, yet to remain in the blissful vacuum. I felt so much more peaceful, more centered.. No one was pushing, insisting, screaming, asking, arguing, questioning, debating… So I put some classic music on, made pancakes and reveled in the peaceful heaven of my mind.

Blissfully,

Pupa

 

Envision Your Vision

No wonder creative visualization technique is being prescribed by many personal development coaches: the benefits of clarifying and emotionally experiencing your dreams by virtually reliving them in your mind has been proven to lead to the greater success in the “execution phase”.

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I remember how thrilled I was to discover visualization, since daydreaming naturally was (and remains) one of my favorite pastime activities. While lounging by a pool, jogging on a treadmill, or sipping the second Margarita in the local pub, I would ask myself “Where could I be now?”, “What could I be doing?” or “Wouldn’t it be nice , if…?” and drift off envisioning various delicious scenarios. That field of potentiality, mixed with improvised creativity, emotionally charged with excitement, joy and freedom, and sprinkled with goosebumps is oh-so-delicious treat with which I pamper myself daily.

I do believe in the power of visualization, but even if I didn’t, creating the alternative life in my mind (just like playing Sims, if you will), genuinely is a fun activity  Plus it really magnifies  and clarifies, what is it that presently matters to me. I also find it extremely satisfying to listen to people, when they’re tapped into this field of potentiality and possibility, talk about their dreams and goals and ambitions… Trough those sparkling eyes and trembling voice I feel the closest connection and purest affection to others.

Dreamily,

Pupa

Diving into the Creative Vortex (AKA good-kind-of-madness)

How does inspiration feel like? What happens when we create?

“When an actor is on the stage improvising and creating on spot, his aura lights up in a bright electric blue color,” – my theater teacher told me once. Though I don’t see auras (just yet.. heh),  that image got deeply  ingrained in my mind.

Whilst in the creative Vortex people do seem to be aligned to something that is way Greater (if not with the Life itself). The sparkling energy, the brain buzz and the sharp focus that the creative process evokes is one of the most sublime ways to treat ourselves.

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For me this “Pupatopia” project serves as a delicious niche to create. I revel in the joy of manifesting an idea into a physical reality, of capturing the moments and editing the pictures, of tuning into the stream of consciousness, then polishing the writing and sending it out to the World.

How do you access the field of potentiality? Do you write? Draw? Sing?  Dance? Color-code the closet? Decorate the cupcakes?  Whatever it is — let’s dive into this good-kind-of-madness.

Madly,

Pupa

P.S. Bonus: a fabulous TED Talk by Elizabeth Gilbert

 

#ByeFelicia

While a post about love, coupling, birds,bees, and pandas* might be more appropriate on Valentine’s Day, where is something else I feel like bringing to this iTable. (*and yes, pandas are ALWAYS appropriate)

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So just yesterday, after several insistent suggestions to meet up, for once, I actually stopped and affirmed to myself:”Nope, he is someone I really don’t feel like seeing”. And I didn’t. No shame. No complain. No explain.While it might not sound like a big deal for you, for me, who has made a career out of pity-love, guilt-dates and obliged-relationships, it was so liberating.

Allowing ourselves to detach from people that are detrimental, boring, obnoxious or simply downers, can be a better treat than a bubble bath (oh and you know how good those are).

 “Don’t go see someone who is irritating, take a day off from work if you feel tired, go to the beach if it calls you, listen to more of the music that pleases you, soothe yourself in ANY way that you can. Let your mantra be,”Today, no matter where I’m going and no matter what I’m doing, it is my dominant intent to PLEASE MYSELF. It is my dominant intent to be good to me, it is my dominant intent to be good to me, it is my DOMINANT intent to be good to me. I’m going to look for ways that I can feel better. I’m going to leave behind things that don’t feel good – thoughts, relationships, STUFF. I’m going to declutter my experience. I’m going to declutter my relationships. I’m going to declutter my mind. I’m going to talk less often to that person who always brings me down. I’m gong to think ledd often of that thought that always puts a know in the pit of my stomach. I’m going to be nicer to me. I’m going to be nicer to me.” (Abraham, West Los Angeles, CA 8/28/10)

So #ByeFelicia to everyone and everything that makes us sobby instead of happy (:

Peace,

Pupa

Healthy as F***

What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear “Treat Yourself”?  Maybe it’s just me (though doubtfully), but basically I associate it with “cheating” on my regular habits: shoving creamy chocolate cake into my mouth (oh so good!), scooping out the whole container of ice-cream, ordering a few extra Pina Coladas or skipping the jog to re-watch the 8th season of “Friends”… Sounds familiar?

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But guess what I eurek’ishly  discovered — treating myself with something that I believe is beneficial to me, not only gets me away from Guiltmon (the Guilt Monster, who, idyllically, shouldn’t show up no matter how gigantic my Ice-cream Sunday is), but actually benefits me 🙂

block_4I’m talking about a delicious glass of fresh juice or a colorful smoothie, a whole foods haul, a massage or a mani-padi, a fancy new body scrub that makes me smell like a treat myself,  a magazine, a ticket to a movie or  a concert, a soak in a hot bath or simply a nap… What treat leaves you feeling happy, special, loving, loved and healthy as F*** ?!

Curiously,

Pupa